A mom and her teen
Make sex an open topic throughout their childhood
Rather than make up stories about babies coming from heaven Lol...be honest and frank with your children. When the inevitable 'where do babies come from' bomb is dropped, simply ask them where they think they come from.
Choose language on your child's level, and continue making sex an open topic as they grow up. Start with the birds and the bees and once your child approaches secondary school start speaking to them about safe sex.
Explain that sex is nothing to be ashamed of
Your teenager will feel more comfortable coming to you for advice if they feel safe speaking to you. Let them know that sex is 100% natural and nothing to feel embarrassed or ashamed of.
Approach contraception embarrassment-free
A lot of parents find it more difficult to talk about relationships and safe sex- this means that your child is growing up and ready to embrace more adult experiences.
First of all make sure they know the legal age of consent, and that their partners must also be over the legal age of consent. Reiterate that sex- particularly your first time- must take place between two people who trust each other and who feel neither scared nor pressured.
Talk about STIs
STIs are definitely something that your teen needs to know about as they approach adolescence. Don't rely on your child's school sex education to keep them filled in you need to build on this at home and keep dialogue open between you and your teen.
Watch programs such educative programs together and use this as an opportunity to bring the topic of STIs into the discussion. Ask them what they already know and fill in any gaps in their knowledge. Utilize the Internet and google anything that you're both unsure of.
Make sure they know sex is about respect
Whether you're raising a teenage boy or girl, it's very important that your child knows sex is about respecting your partner and trusting them, as well as returning that trust. Make sure they know about consent and how they know when they're crossing a boundary. Make it clear that they own the rights to their body and that nobody is allowed to make them feel uncomfortable or pressure them into doing anything they don't want to do.
Also add that safe sex is a way of showing your respect towards a partner. Tell them the importance of wearing a condom with a new partner and taking precautions better yet sit down and read about them together.
Talk to your teen about porn
Nowadays, most teenagers will use online pornography to explore their sexuality and teach themselves about sex, too bad!
Let your son or daughter know that porn is not what sex is life in real life, but a representation of a fantasy to satisfy the body.
If at all you discover that your child has been watching porn online, tell them to let you know if they see anything online that upsets them or if they're not sure about what they've just watched. You can speak about any worries they might have, and in turn this should address any concerns you may have about your child's internet history.
Be aware of other ways they will learn about sex
Whether it's through friends, music videos or TV shows, peer groups, teens will be looking for as many clues as possible to help guide them through adolescence and into adulthood. A lot has changed, teens will look to a lot of online articles to satisfy their curiosity.
Always pay attention to your child's behavior at home and make sure you have an open dialogue when it comes to sex and relationships. Be careful not to be the over protective parent because it will surely create a lot of opposite effect especially on the girl child, always try to remain approachable and keep a good sense of humor towards them.
Make them aware of the consequences
From pregnancy to the emotional side of things, chat with them about how they might feel after they have had sex.
Make them realize that sex is part of being an adult and with that comes adult responsibilities.
Have they thought about what they would do eventually when she becomes pregnant? Will they be able to speak to their partner about how they feel after they have had it? Lot of questions to be asked indeed.
But don’t alarm them with lots of questions, just gently remind them that there is more to sex than they might think.